Any sugar baby who’s ever given relationship advice to a girlfriend before knows all too well how something that’s obvious to outsiders can be really hard to put a finger on for the person actually going through it. This is especially the case when it comes to the right time (and reasons) to end a relationship.
When you love someone, have been with them a long time, or have invested a lot in your relationship, it can be tough to admit to yourself that it’s time to cut your losses and walk away. But it’s crucial that every sugar baby learn to do so. Because while you’re wasting time with the wrong sugar daddy, you’re missing out on the opportunity to meet one that’s perfect for you. Here are some subtle but crucial deal-breakers every woman should have.
His words and actions don’t line up
Naturally, nobody’s perfect. Everyone has moments where they’re not at their best as far as walking the walk instead of only talking the talk. But a sugar daddy worth being with is a man of his word more often than not. And on the rare occasion he does need to break his word, he’s clearly apologetic about it and willing to make it up to you.
So if your sugar daddy has made a longstanding habit of telling you one thing and doing another, that’s not OK – especially if he shows little to no remorse when it happens. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care about your feelings and likely doesn’t value his relationship with you much.
He constantly leaves you waiting
If your sugar daddy is like most, he’s likely extremely busy and leads a very demanding life. It makes sense that he isn’t going to be able to be with you every second of the day or can’t agree to a lot of impromptu plans at the last minute. But busy daddies also know how to manage their time, so being busy is no excuse for leaving you waiting.
Does he routinely take many, many hours or even days to respond to your calls and texts? Does he constantly leave you hanging as to when your next meetup is? Does he cancel plans whenever he feels like it but expect you to jump at the chance to see him whenever he wants to see you? You can do better than a sugar daddy like that.
He doesn’t care about impressing you
If you’re like most sugar babies, you made the switch from conventional dating to sugar dating because you were tired of wasting your time on low-effort guys who expect the moon of you but don’t care to return the favor. A good sugar daddy spoils his sugar baby and cares about making sure she’s living the dream.
So if your daddy has become the type of person who no longer cares about impressing you, that speaks very clearly to the value he places on you and your relationship. And if he still has high standards he expects you to meet while he just barely squeaks by, that’s completely unacceptable.
It’s always you putting in the effort
While it’s true that good, healthy relationships do take work, they shouldn’t feel like absolute drudges to maintain. And they should always feel like two-way streets, especially when you’re a sugar baby in an arrangement with a sugar daddy. So if you feel like you’re the one putting in all or most of the effort, something’s wrong.
In all likelihood, that “something wrong” is your daddy valuing his relationship with you more for the convenience it brings him than for the opportunity to be in a loving, give-and-take situation with a genuine partner. If that’s the case, it really might be time to call it quits.
People you trust don’t like him
Naturally, what you think of a relationship partner carries a lot more weight than something a friend or relative might think. And it’s probably unrealistic to hope your sugar daddy of choice will get along famously with every member of your family and all of your friends.
But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pay attention when someone you trust has strong negative feelings toward your partner – especially if more than one person shares that opinion. If your entire social circle pretty much unanimously agrees that you can do better than your current sugar daddy, they’re likely right.
Ultimately, life is just too short to live it suffering in the wrong relationship or by the side of someone who doesn’t make you happy. So if you suspect that it might be time to call it quits with your current relationship, you’re likely correct. Just keep in mind that better things are on the horizon!