If you feel like you keep ending up attached to the wrong guys despite your best efforts to do otherwise, you’re not alone. There are many women out there just like you who genuinely don’t know what they’re doing wrong but would give anything to change things.
It’s frustrating, it’s unfair, and you definitely deserve better. But first, you need to get to the bottom of why this is happening in the first place. Here are a few common possibilities to consider.
You’re falling in love with their potential.
Many bright, beautiful young women who chronically find themselves dating the wrong guys don’t realize it’s not the guy they’re falling for. They’re really in love with his potential to become something other than he is. Does that sound familiar at all?
Do you catch yourself ignoring red flags, especially at the beginning of a relationship, because you’re telling yourself you can change him? Are you convinced that all he needs to change is enough time, love, and patience? This is a recipe for disaster. Not only is it not really right to try to change another person, but it’s also pretty much impossible – a true recipe for disaster.
You’ve let other people convince you to settle.
An incredible woman with a lot to offer isn’t born thinking she should settle for less than what she wants out of life, especially regarding her relationships. It’s something the world around her convinces her she should do if she wants to avoid ending up alone.
Dating is hard, and it can definitely seem like there are more frogs out there than princes sometimes. But don’t let the fact that your friends or relatives may have settled convince you that you have to, as well. Whether you want a rich sugar daddy, a brilliant artist, or something else entirely in a man, you should never settle for less than you truly want.
You’ve gotten used to bad.
People have a way of subconsciously choosing what they’re used to, even if what they’re used to is making them seriously unhappy. This is just as much the case with relationships as it is anything else in life. Date enough bad guys, and you’ll find you’ve developed a knack for coping with them and all the awful things they do.
At that point, it’s tempting to just keep choosing more of the same, but you deserve so much better than that. Just think how wonderful good will feel after years of bad, worse, and worst of all. You could get used to that, too, if you gave yourself a chance.
You think a bad relationship is better than nothing.
Relationships aren’t like money in that something is always better than nothing. A bad relationship with the wrong guy takes more away from a woman’s life than it adds. It can rob her of her energy, her resources, her time, and her self-esteem. And the longer she stays in that relationship, the worse things become.
On the other hand, being single can be a good thing, especially for a strong, high-value woman with lots to offer. Unlike a bad relationship, singlehood leaves room to work on your career, do things you enjoy, and invest in relationships with other people you love. It leaves room in your love life for truly great guys, as well.
You’ve trained yourself to overlook the good guys.
If you’re lucky enough to have lots of other good guys in your life – like your father, brothers, male friends, and so forth – there’s a really high likelihood that you’ve trained yourself not to look for goodness in the men you date. You associate good qualities like honesty, loyalty, accountability, and stability with friendship or family instead of romance and passion.
When a woman’s surrounded by male goodness everywhere else, she may seek out novelty in her love life. And all too often, that can look like a string of bad boys and man-children who aren’t going to do anything but ruin her life.
You’re not sure good guys even exist.
Date enough bad guys for long enough, and you might start to wonder whether good men actually exist at all. This is especially the case if all of your friends and acquaintances are the type to settle for the wrong guys, too. You become convinced that if good men do exist, they must not be meant for you.
And if you do think those things, you’re wrong, and it’s time to start thinking otherwise. Start acting like the strong, empowered woman you are and demanding nothing less than the very best when it comes to your love life. And if you really want to experience the best life has to offer you can consider sugar dating. It’s a lot like traditional dating just without the games. As a confident sugar baby you can find a successful and generous sugar daddy just as easily as you can find a broke needy guy. Sugar dating is a wonderful way to enjoy a mutual beneficial relationship that can leave to a long life of love, happiness and spoils.
At the end of the day, good men and healthy relationships are really much too wonderful to miss out on. Hold out for one of your own, and you’ll find out!
